Successful people get in line and stay in line

“Successful people get in line and stay in line.” Brian Tracy

I used to go from one thing to the next, never truly committing to anything. I had the mindset that if it didn't work out it didn’t matter because I would always have a back up plan. Why do we question ourselves? Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves? How can we stay true and trust in ourselves when the going gets tough? Humans have a need for certainty and this can lead us oh so cleverly back to our comfort zone.

per·se·ver·ance

noun

1. steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.

You cannot have a back up plan or an easy out if you want to succeed. Joe Pane said something powerful that truly spoke to my soul and had a profound effect on me, he said "you're either all in or you're all out, you will never achieve what you want if you just dip your toe in to the water" When something means everything to you don’t say “if I make it” instead say “it's only a matter of time before I achieve it”

"It is not in the pursuit of happiness that we find fulfillment, it is in the happiness of pursuit.” Denis Waitley

Celebrate the small wins along the way and take note of the reference points of success. Talent will only get you so far; perseverance, hard word and being relentless in pursuit of your WHY, your Purpose and your vision will get you through.

"Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” Marie Curie

Be relentless in pursuit of what matters to you, it takes hard work to be great.

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Its ok to be selfish sometimes, isn't it?

Life was travelling along great until it all got ripped out from under me when I was a passenger in a single vehicle accident. I was only 20 years old and on the way to Far North Queensland. I wrote about it here.

I was fit, healthy and enjoying life. I had a beautiful girlfriend who I loved spending time with.  My job paid great money, with money came an apartment and a car. Safe to say life was very good.

I was in a bad way physically and mentally after the accident. The only way I could deal with getting myself right was to continue what I started and go up north and go walkabout.

“Walkabout” refers to a rite of passage during which male Australian Aboriginals would undergo a journey during adolescence and live in the wilderness for a period as long as six months. In this practice they would trace the paths, or "songlines", that their ancestors took, and imitate, in a fashion, their heroic deeds.

I left everything behind and never went back. My girlfriend was hurt and couldn’t understand why I was leaving. I left my car, apartment and job. I went north with a sleeping bag, a pillow and the clothes on my back. With very little money I slept on beaches, beside rivers and waterfalls. Hitch hiking was my sole mode of transport.

Selfish:

1. devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.

2. characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself:

I tell this story because I was selfish and I did leave a path of destruction but it was what I believe I needed to do at the time to get my life back on track. I don’t know if it was right or wrong but it was the decision I made at the time. We all make decisions that affect other people in someway. Do we get it right all the time? Possibly not but that’s how life is.

“Putting yourself first is not selfish. Thinking about yourself constantly is selfish. Please respect the difference.” Kushandwizdom

We don’t need to fix ourselves, because we aren’t broken. Sometimes we need to take the time to reconnect with ourselves. This isn’t selfish it’s necessary for us as humans. We will be better people in the long run for those around us.

“Put yourself first...Because if you can't care about yourself, how the hell are you gonna care for someone else?” Unknown

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How can you make it through the tough times?

How can you make it through the tough times?

I think back to when I was lying in hospital with bolts in my head and weights pulling to keep my spine straight, I wondered to myself how did I ever get through that.

At the time I had a shattered neck (yes those are my real X-rays) broken back, broken arm, crushed foot and half my calf muscle with third degree burns. I could not walk, I could not move for that matter. All I had was belief; I had an unshakable belief that I would walk out of hospital no matter what. I didn’t know how or how long it would take I just new.

“Mile by mile it’s a trial, yard by yard its hard but inch by inch it’s a cinch” - Unknown

Think of all you have overcome in your life - family issues, health issues and great loss. You have strength; you are a warrior and deserve to acknowledge yourself for this. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise, especially yourself. You are stronger than you could ever imagine.

“There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.” - Malcolm X

The will always be tough times, life isn’t easy for anyone. It is a choice on how we react and cope with adversity that shapes who we are; it defines us and strengthens our character. Show empathy to those around you because you never know what they could be going through.

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” - Helen Keller

When I look back at some of the trivial issues that have got me down or diverted me of my path I can’t help wonder why. Why did I let them affect me so much, at the time they seemed to be huge issues.

Ask yourself this question – Will this matter in a year from now? Don’t sweat the small stuff” – Richard Carlson.

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Isn’t it time you started to give yourself some credit?

Isn’t it time you started to give yourself some credit?

Yes it is!

We all achieve so much in life. We do more than we realize we do; yet we rarely give ourselves credit. Not to mention we don’t take praise or credit from others that well.

“I'd like to congratulate myself, and thank myself, and give myself a big pat on the back.” Dee Dee Ramone

We punish ourselves for past mistakes but when we achieve a goal or a milestone we just move on to the next one.  We do this without truly taking the time to show gratitude and give ourselves a good old-fashioned pat on the back.

Pat on the back -

An expression or gesture of praise or approval.

Yes I am generalizing a little but we need to consciously be able to acknowledge all we have achieved and are achieving along the way. Don’t wait until you achieve your goal to recognize your achievements. Celebrate the successes along the way. Give yourself reference points for success at each step.

“Giving credit where credit is due is a very rewarding habit to form. Its rewards are inestimable.” Loretta Young

When others praise you don’t deflect it by saying things like “it was nothing” or “anyone could have done it”. You did it, no one else. Give the person who praised you a gift by saying “thank you for saying” or “thank you that means a lot I worked so hard on this”. You get the idea I know you have your own words.

“Maybe you don't see people looking at you because you aren't looking at them. Maybe you don't hear all the good things people say about you because you're too focused on the bad. Maybe you're a lot more wonderful, beautiful & special than you ever give yourself credit for.” Unknown

If you didn’t achieve what you set out to do today no problem, hit the reset button and go again as there is always tomorrow. You got this!

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When are you going to start believing in yourself?

When are you going to start believing in yourself?

Right NOW.

When I was 19, the driver of the car I was in feel asleep and drove into a bridge. That day my life changed. I sustained serious (shattered neck, broken back, arm and 3 degree burns on my leg) injuries. Once I had recovered I continuously pushed my mind and body past the limits of my injuries and mental state. Risking everything again that I had nearly already lost. I had nothing to prove to anyone – well only myself.

“If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”― Mahatma Gandhi

I spent money, crazy amounts of money chasing what I already had inside me but could not see. I listened to everyone else tell me what I could or couldn’t do and the things I should do. I did course after course with no direction still searching for something. What was I searching for?………Belief. Belief in what I had already achieved and overcome.

Give yourself credit when you achieve something, its not luck, chance or the right place at the right time. Its all you, you did it, you achieved it and you deserve the credit for it.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ― Winston S. Churchill

Its not about money or success, its about letting go and believing who we are as people that is truly important. We all have a story but sometimes we need to take the time to reflect on all we have overcome to be where we are right now.

“Press on – nothing can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Perseverance and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge

If you are not where you would like to be, that’s ok as a mountain is climbed one step at a time. The only question to ask yourself is: What is the first step for me?

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